Why does other's success feel like our failure?
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How many times have you seen other people celebrate their wins and instantly feel a pang of jealousy or envy?
Or even get annoyed at LinkedIn where everyone is succeeding?
Its pretty common. I used to do that too until I understood what I am about to explain to you.
There are 4 reasons this happens-
1) You overdose on information
Social media is overwhelming and the amount of information is too much out there. The more you spend time scrolling on it- the heavier it feels inside your brain, the slower it becomes and its easier for you to spiral.
STOP CONSUMING MEANINGLESS INFORMATION
Be very cautious of what you are feeding your brain. Information compounds over time.
2) You don’t know where you are going
When you don’t have your own goals, everyone’s goals are going to feel like your goals.
GET VERY CLEAR with what YOU want. Other people doing well in their fields does not mean its cut out for you too.
Read about Goal-Setting. Evaluate your interests and passions. Look
within.
3) You are Under-Confident/ Lack of Self-Confidence
When you do not trust yourself (lack of self-confidence), fear and resentment builds up over time. And this comes up in the form of jealousy.
Confident people appreciate other people’s success because they know it doesn’t take away anything from theirs.
Work on your Self Confidence. In a room full of people with same skills, a Self-Confident person is the one who stands out.
4) You assume things
One of my favorite activity to do when I am fascinated by someone’s success is- Ask their story. Get to know hem.
Its extremely easy to assume that someone is successful, wealthy, has everything based on the EDITED version they show on Social Media.
You don’t know them. You don’t know whether its real or not. You do not how much struggle or privilege was involved.
GET TO KNOW THE FULL STORY.
Remember- Having Emotional Intelligence is a leverage in an information obsessed era.
I have spoken to many people who simply avoid investing in their mental health and when it becomes too much or their lack of awareness have costed them a great opportunity- they realize how bad it has become.
Don’t be that person.
If you want other people to value you- you have to value yourself first.
Love, Riyanshi