Being Insecure and Restless doesn’t mean you are ambitious.
Most people who are always running for money, status and external achievements confuse their insecurities and restlessness as ambition
This is further intensified when the hustle culture makes such folks feel that feeling anxious, impatient, jumping from one goal to another means “they are achieving” something.
In truth- your restlessness and impatience leads to
- Fear of Failure
- Constant Overthinking
- Not sticking to a vision
- Scarcity and Fear based decisions
- Getting into “short cut” paths
But- why does this happen?
Why do some people feel so impatient and insecure? Why are they running behind money, status and external validation so much? Why are they willing to forsake their health, relationships, friendships for this restless ambition?
Answer: Low Self Esteem stemming from unresolved Trauma
1) As a kid when you grow up being criticised and judged- you subconsciously decided that you will “make so much money” that no one will be able to look down on you
2) When you were compared as a child, you decide to live up to this “invisible” expectation and image your parents have for you
3) When you grow up seeing a lack of respect and financial stability in your family- it is very traumatising and can push you to make money and status your only goal
There are many more reasons depending on the life you have lived and what childhood traumas you must have acquired
Question is: Is it really ambition?
Answer: No
Ambition is grounding, long term and has a vision.
True Ambition will make you feel calm and composed from inside.
It will not make you feel confused, under confident and anxious.
Don’t confuse your trauma induced impatience as ambition.
Aim for building true Ambition by healing your childhood traumas.
How do you resolve this?
1) Undergo Trauma Healing sessions + 1:1 Coaching to solve this from a the root.
2) Build your Self Esteem separate from your external achievements
3) Redefine ambition from your adult self rather than from your wounded inner child.
I help my clients heal from deep rooted patterns like this + achieve their version of success from a place of fulfillment and enough-ness inside my 1:1 containers.
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